Existential Therapy

From Dryden’s Handbook of Individual Therapy (Sage 2006)

Existential Therapy

Emmy van Deurzen


Historical context

The existential approach is first and foremost philosophical. It is concerned with the understanding of people’s position in the world and with the clarification of what it means to them to be alive. It is also committed to exploring these questions with a receptive attitude, rather than with a dogmatic one. The aim is to search for truth with an open mind and an attitude of wonder rather than to fit the client into pre-established frameworks of interpretation.

The historical background to this approach is that of 3,000 years of philosophy. Throughout the history of humankind people have tried to make sense of life in general and of their personal predicaments in particular. Much of the philosophical tradition is relevant and can help us to understand an individual’s position in the world. The philosophers who are especially pertinent are those whose work is directly aimed at making sense of human existence. But the philosophical movements that are of most importance and that have been directly responsible for the generation of existential therapy are phenomenology and existential philosophy.

The starting point of existential philosophy (see Warnock, 1970; Macquarrie, 1972; Mace, 1999; Van Deurzen and Kenward, 2005) can be traced back to the last century and the work of Kierkegaard and Nietzsche. Both were in conflict with the predominant ideologies of their time and committed to the exploration of reality as it can be experienced in a passionate and personal manner.

Kierkegaard (1813–55) protested vigorously against Christian dogma and the so-called ‘objectivity’ of science (Kierkegaard, 1941, 1944). He thought that both were ways of avoiding the anxiety inherent in human existence. He had great contempt for the way in which life was being lived by those around him and believed that truth could ultimately only be discovered subjectively by the individual in action. What was most lacking was people’s courage to take the leap of faith and live with passion and commitment from the inward depth of existence. This involved a constant struggle between the finite and infinite aspects of our nature as part of the difficult task of creating a self and finding meaning. As Kierkegaard lived by his own word he was lonely and much ridiculed during his lifetime.

Nietzsche (1844–1900) took this philosophy of life a step further. His starting point was the notion that God was dead (Nietzsche, 1961, 1974, 1986) and that it is up to us to re-evaluate existence in light of this. He invited people to shake off the shackles of moral constraint and to discover their free will in order to soar to unknown heights and learn to live with new intensity. He encouraged people not to remain part of the herd, but to dare stand out. The important existential themes of freedom, choice, responsibility and courage are introduced for the first time.

Husserl (1859–1938). While Kierkegaard and Nietzsche drew attention to the human issues that needed to be addressed, Husserl’s phenomenology (Husserl, 1960, 1962; Moran, 2000) provided the method to address them in a rigorous manner. He contended that natural sciences are based on the assumption that subject and object are separate and that this kind of dualism can only lead to error. He proposed a whole new mode of investigation and understanding of the world and our experience of it. Prejudice has to be put aside or ‘bracketed’, in order for us to meet the world afresh and discover what is absolutely fundamental and only directly available to us through intuition. If we want to grasp the essence of things, instead of explaining and analysing them we have to learn to describe and understand them.

Heidegger (1889–1976) applied the phenomenological method to under- standing the meaning of being (Heidegger, 1962, 1968). He argued that poetry and deep philosophical thinking can bring greater insight into what it means to be in the world than can be achieved through scientific knowledge. He explored human being in the world in a manner that revolutionizes classical ideas about the self and psychology. He recognized the importance of time, space, death and human relatedness. He also favoured hermeneutics, an old philosophical method of investigation, which is the art of interpretation. Unlike interpretation as practised in psychoanalysis (which consists of referring a person’s experience to a pre-established theoretical framework) this kind of interpretation seeks to under- stand how the person herself subjectively experiences something.

Sartre (1905–80) contributed many other strands of existential exploration, particularly in terms of emotions, imagination, and the person’s insertion into a social and political world. He became the father of existentialism, which was a philosophical trend with a limited life span. The philosophy of existence on the contrary is carried by a wide-ranging literature, which includes many other authors than the ones mentioned above.

There is much to be learned from existential authors such as Jaspers (1951, 1963), Tillich and Gadamer within the Germanic tradition and Camus, Marcel, Ricoeur, Merleau-Ponty and Levinas within the French tradition (see for instance Spiegelberg, 1972, Kearney, 1986 or van Deurzen-Smith, 1997). Few psychotherapists are aware of this literature, or interested in making use of it. Psychotherapy has traditionally grown within a medical rather than a philosophical milieu and is only just beginning to discover the possibility of a radical philosophical approach.

From the start of this century some psychotherapists were, however, inspired by phenomenology and its possibilities for working with people. Binswanger, in Switzerland, was the first to attempt to bring existential insights to his work with patients, in the Kreuzlingen sanatorium where he was a psychiatrist. Much of his work was translated into English during the 1940s and 1950s and, together with the immigration to the USA of Tillich (Tillich, 1952) and others, this had a con- siderable impact on the popularization of existential ideas as a basis for therapy (Valle and King, 1978; Cooper, 2003). Rollo May played an important role in this, and his writing (1969, 1983; May et al., 1958) kept the existential influence alive in America, leading eventually to a specific formulation of therapy (Bugental, 1981; May and Yalom, 1985; Yalom, 1980). Humanistic psychology was directly influenced by these ideas, but it invariably diluted and sometimes distorted their original meanings.

In Europe existential ideas were combined with some psychoanalytic principles and a method of existential analysis was developed by Boss (1957a, 1957b, 1979) in close co-operation with Heidegger. In Austria Frankl developed an existential therapy called logotherapy (Frankl, 1964, 1967), which focused particularly on finding meaning. In France the ideas of Sartre (1956, 1962) and Merleau-Ponty (1962) and of a number of practitioners (Minkowski, 1970) were important and influential but no specific therapeutic method was developed from them.


Britain became a fertile ground for the further development of the existential approach when Laing and Cooper took Sartre’s existential ideas as the basis for their work (Laing, 1960, 1961; Cooper, 1967; Laing and Cooper, 1964). Without developing a concrete method of therapy they critically reconsidered the notion of mental illness and its treatment. In the late 1960s they established an experimental therapeutic community at Kingsley Hall in the East End of London, where people could come to live through their madness without the usual medical treatment. They also founded the Philadelphia Association, an organization providing alternative living, therapy and therapeutic training from this perspective. The Philadelphia Association is still in existence today and is now commit- ted to the exploration of the works of philosophers such as Wittgenstein, Derrida, Levinas and Foucault as well as the work of the French psychoanalyst Lacan. It also runs a number of small therapeutic households along these lines. The Arbours Association is another group that grew out of the Kingsley Hall experiment. Founded by Berke and Schatzman in the 1970s, it now runs a training programme in psychotherapy, a crisis centre and several therapeutic communi- ties. The existential input in the Arbours has gradually been replaced with a more neo-Kleinian emphasis.

The impetus for further development of the existential approach in Britain has largely come from the development of a number of existentially based courses in academic institutions. This started with the programmes created by van Deurzen, initially at Antioch University in London and subsequently at Regent’s College, London and since then at the New School of Psychotherapy and Counselling, also in London. The latter is a purely existentially based training institute, which offers postgraduate degrees validated by the University of Sheffield and Middleses University. In the last decades the existential approach has spread rapidly and has become a welcome alternative to established methods. There are now a number of other, mostly academic, centres in Britain that provide training in existential coun- selling and psychotherapy and a rapidly growing interest in the approach in the voluntary sector and in the National Health Service.

British publications dealing with existential therapy include contributions by Jenner (de Koning and Jenner, 1982), Heaton (1988, 1994), Cohn (1994, 1997), Spinelli (1997), Cooper (1989, 2002), Eleftheriadou (1994), Lemma-Wright (1994), Du Plock (1997), Strasser and Strasser (1997), van Deurzen (1997, 1998, 2002); van Deurzen and Arnold-Baker (2005); van Deurzen and Kenward (2005). Other writers such as Lomas (1981) and Smail (1978, 1987, 1993) have published work relevant to the approach although not explicitly ‘existential’ in orientation. The journal of the British Society for Phenomenology regularly publishes work on existential and phenomenological psychotherapy. An important development was that of the founding of the Society for Existential Analysis in 1988, initiated by van Deurzen. This society brings together psychotherapists, psychologists, psychiatrists, counsellors and philosophers working from an existential perspective. It offers regular fora for discussion and debate as well as major annual conferences. It publishes the Journal of the Society for Existential Analysis twice a year. It is also a member of the International Federation for Daseinsanalysis, which stimulates international exchange between representa- tives of the approach from around the world. An international Society for Existential Analysis also exists.


Image of the person

The existential approach considers human nature to be open-minded, flexible and capable of an enormous range of experience. The person is in a constant process of becoming. I create myself as I exist and have to reinvent myself daily. There is no essential self, as I define my personality and abilities in action and in relation to my environment. This impermanence and uncertainty give rise to a deep sense of anxiety (Angst), in response to the realization of one’s insignificance, and simultaneous responsibility to have to create something in place of the emptiness we often experience. Everything passes and nothing lasts. We are never able to hold on to the present. We are always no longer or not yet what we would like to be. We find ourselves somewhere in the middle of the passing of time, grappling with the givens of the past and the possibilities of the future, without any sure knowledge of what it all means.

Existential thinkers seek to avoid restrictive models that categorize or label people. Instead they look for the universals that can be observed cross-culturally. There is no existential personality theory which divides humanity into types or reduces people to part components. Instead there is a description of the different levels of experience and existence with which people are inevitably confronted.

The way in which a person is in the world at a particular stage can be charted on this general map of human existence (Binswanger, 1963; Yalom, 1980; van Deurzen-Smith, 1984). One can distinguish four basic dimensions of human exis- tence: the physical, the social, the psychological and the spiritual. On each of these dimensions people encounter the world and shape their attitude out of their partic- ular take on their experience. Our orientation towards the world defines our reality. The four dimensions are obviously interwoven and provide a complex four- dimensional force field for our existence. We are stretched between a positive pole of what we aspire to on each dimension and a negative pole of what we fear.

Physical dimension

On the physical dimension (Umwelt) we relate to our environment and to the givens of the natural world around us. This includes our attitude to the body we have, to the concrete surroundings we find ourselves in, to the climate and the weather, to objects and material possessions, to the bodies of other people, our own bodily needs, to health and illness and to our own mortality. The struggle on this dimension is, in general terms, between the search for domination over the elements and natural law (as in technology, or in sports) and the need to accept the limitations of natural boundaries (as in ecology or old age). While people generally aim for security on this dimension (through health and wealth), much of life brings a gradual disillusionment and realization that such security can only be temporary. Recognizing limitations can bring great release of tension.

Social dimension

On the social dimension (Mitwelt) we relate to others as we interact with the public world around us. This dimension includes our response to the culture we live in, as well as to the class and race we belong to (and also those we do not belong to). Attitudes here range from love to hate and from co-operation to competition. The dynamic contradictions can be understood in terms of acceptance versus rejection or belonging versus isolation. Some people prefer to with- draw from the world of others as much as possible. Others blindly chase public acceptance by going along with the rules and fashions of the moment. Otherwise they try to rise above these by becoming trendsetters themselves. By acquiring fame or other forms of power, we can attain dominance over others temporarily. Sooner or later we are, however, all confronted with both failure and aloneness.

Psychological dimension

On the psychological dimension (Eigenwelt) we relate to ourselves and in this way create a personal world. This dimension includes views about our character, our past experience and our future possibilities. Contradictions here are often experienced in terms of personal strengths and weaknesses. People search for a sense of identity, a feeling of being substantial and having a self. But inevitably many events will confront us with evidence to the contrary and plunge us into a state of confusion or disintegration. Activity and passivity are an important polarity here. Self-affirmation and resolution go with the former and surrender and yielding with the latter. Facing the final dissolution of self that comes with personal loss and the facing of death might bring anxiety and confusion to many who have not yet given up their sense of self-importance.

Spiritual dimension

On the spiritual dimension (Überwelt) (van Deurzen-Smith, 1984) we relate to the unknown and thus create a sense of an ideal world, an ideology and a philosophical outlook. It is here that we find meaning by putting all the pieces of the puzzle together for ourselves. For some people this is done by adhering to the dogma of a religion or some other prescriptive worldview, for others it is about discovering or attributing meaning in a more secular or personal way. The contradictions that have to be faced on this dimension are often related to the tension between purpose and absurdity, hope and despair. People create their values in search of something that matters enough to live or die for, something that may even have ultimate and universal validity. Usually the aim is the conquest of a soul, or something that will substantially surpass mortality (as for instance in having contributed something valuable to humankind). Facing the void and the possibility of nothingness are the indispensable counterparts of this quest for the eternal.


Disturbance and health are two sides of the same coin. Living creatively means welcoming both. Well-being coincides with the ability to be transparent and open to what life can bring: both good and bad. In trying to evade the negative side of existence we get stuck as surely as we do when we cannot see the positive side. It is only in facing both positive and negative poles of existence that we generate the necessary power to move ahead. Thus well-being is not the naive enjoyment of a state of total balance given to one by Mother Nature and perfect parents. It can only be negotiated gradually by coming to terms with life, the world and one- self. It doesn’t require a clean record of childhood experience, or a total devotion to the cult of body and mind. It simply requires openness to being and to increasing understanding of what the business of living is all about. From an existential perspective psychological well-being is seen to be synonymous with wisdom. This results from being equal to the task of life when it is faced honestly and squarely. Psychological disturbance is seen as a consequence of either avoidance of truth or an inability to cope with it. Discontent is generated for many people through self-deception in a blind following of popular opinions, habits, beliefs, rules and reasons. Others are at a loss to make sense of the paradoxes of life that they are forcefully confronted with and that overwhelm them.

To be authentic is to be true to oneself and one’s innermost possibilities and limitations. Finding one’s own authority and learning to create an increasingly comfortable space inside and around oneself, no matter what the circumstances, is a considerable challenge. As the self is defined by its vital links to the world around it, being true to oneself has to be understood as being true to life. This is not about setting one’s own rules or living without regard for others. It is about recognizing the necessities, givens and limitations of the human condition as much as about affirming freedom and insisting on one’s basic rights. Many people avoid authentic living, because it is terrifying to face the reality of the constant challenges, failures, crises and doubts that existence exposes us to. Living authentically begins with the recognition of one’s personal vulnerability and mortality and with the acknowledgement of the ultimate uncertainty of all that is known. It is superficially far more rewarding to play at being certain, role- defined and self-important. Even the self-image of sickness or madness can seem more attractive than having to struggle with yourself and face your vulnerability in an uncertain world.

Ultimately it is the essential human longing for truth that redeems. We are reminded of truth by the pangs of conscience, which may expose our evasion of reality. A sense of courage and possibility can be found by stopping the dialogue with the internal voices of other people’s laws and expectations. In the quietude of being with myself I can sense where truth lies and where lies have obscured the truth. The call of conscience reaches me through a feeling of guilt, that is, existential guilt, which tells me that something is lacking, something is being owed to life by me: I am in debt to myself.

The call of conscience comes through an attitude of openness to possibilities and limitations. This openness leads to Angst as it exposes me to my responsibilities and possible failure, but when I accept this anxiety it becomes the source of energy that allows me to be ready for whatever the future holds in store. And so, in facing the worst, I prepare myself for the best. I can live resolutely only when I can also surrender and release myself. I can be free only when I know what is necessary. I can be fully alive only when I face up to the possibility of my death.


When well-being is defined as the ability to face up to the disturbing facts of life, the notion of disturbance takes on a whole new meaning. Problems and obstacles are not necessarily an impediment to living well, for any potentially distressing situation can be seen as a challenge that can be faced. Problems are first of all problems in living and will occur at any stage in human development. In fact the only thing you can be sure of is that life will inevitably confront you with new situations that are a challenge to your established ways and evasions of the human paradox. When people are shocked out of their ordinary routine into a sudden awareness of their inability to face the realities of living, the clouds start to gather. Even though we may think of ourselves as well-adjusted people who have had a moderately acceptable upbringing, unexpected events, such as the death of a loved one, the loss of a job or another significant sudden exposure of our vulnerability, may still trigger a sense of failure, despair or extreme anxiety. Everything around us suddenly seems absurd or impossible and our own and other people’s motives are questioned. The value of what used to be taken for granted becomes uncertain and life loses its appeal. The basic vulnerability of being human has emerged from behind the well-guarded self-deception of social adaptation. Sometimes a similar disenchantment and profound disturbance arise not out of an external catastrophe but out of a sense of the futility of everyday routines. Boredom can be just as important a factor in generating disturbance as losses or other forms of crisis.

No matter how securely a person is established in the world some events will shake the foundations of that security and transform the appearance of existence. For some people, however, such false security is not at first available. They never achieve ‘ontological security’ (Laing, 1960), which consists of having a firm sense of one’s own and other people’s reality and identity. Genetic predisposition obviously makes some of us capable of greater sensory awareness and psychological susceptibility than others. People who have such extraordinary sensitivity may easily get caught up in the conflicts that others are trying to avoid. If they are exposed to particularly intense contradictions (as in certain family conflicts) they may fall into a state of extreme confusion and despair and withdraw into the relative security of a world of their own creation. Both the ontologically secure person who is disturbed by a crisis (or boredom) and the ontologically insecure person who is overwhelmed by the less pleasant sides of ordinary human existence are struggling with an absence of the usual protective armour of self-deception. Life is suddenly seen in all its harshness and paradoxical reality. Without the redeeming factor of some of the more positive aspects of life such realism can be distressing.

This does not mean that this kind of crisis or generation of anxiety should be avoided. It can be faced and integrated by making sense of it. The existential view of disturbance is that it is an inevitable and even welcome event that every- one will sooner or later encounter. The question is not how to avoid it but on the contrary how to approach it with determination and curiosity.

Perpetuation of psychological disturbance

Problems start to become more serious when the challenge of disturbance is not faced but evaded. Then a self-perpetuating negative spiralling downward can happen which leads to confusion and chaos. This is most likely to occur if we are not linked to a vital support system. As long as our family or other intimate networks of reference are strong and open enough to absorb the contradictions in which we get caught up, distress can be eased and overcome: the balance can be redressed. But if we find ourselves in isolation, without the understanding and challenge of a relative, a partner or a close friend, it is easy to get lost in our problems. Society’s rituals for safeguarding the individual are these days less and less powerful and secure. Few people gain a sense of ultimate meaning or direction from their relationship to God or from other essential beliefs. Many feel at the mercy of temporary, ever-changing but incessant demands, needs and desires. In time of distress there seems all too often to be nowhere to turn. Relatives and friends, who themselves are barely holding their heads above water, may be unavailable. If they are available, they may want to soothe distress instead of tackling it at the root. Spiritual authority has gradually been eroded and has been replaced with scientific authority, which is unable to address moral or spiritual dilemmas. It is hardly surprising that people turn increasingly to psychotherapists or counsellors. Unfortunately, there is little evidence that psy- chotherapy and counselling are able to lessen distress. To some extent a reliance on therapeutic cure may present another perpetuation of disturbance, as long as the basic existential issues are not dealt with and the client is kept in a passive role.

Paradoxically, the institutions in our society often seem to encourage the very opposite of what they are supposed to be about. When the family becomes a place of loneliness and alienation instead of one that fosters togetherness and intimacy, when schools become places of boredom and reluctance instead of inspiring curiosity and learning and when doctors’ surgeries become places of dependence and addiction instead of centres of healing and renewal of strength, it is time for essentials to be reconsidered. Much disturbance is not only generated but also maintained by a society that is out of touch with the essential principles of life. Often it is in the distress of those who face a crisis that the disturbance of society is expressed. It is therefore hardly surprising that we are inclined to want to obliterate this reminder of failings at the heart of our own existence. If we are willing to attend to the message of such distress we give our- selves a chance to be reminded of the ways in which we perpetuate our own mis-understanding and avoidance of life.


Life is one long process of change and transformation. Although people often think they want to change, more often than not their lives reflect their attempts at maintaining the status quo. As a person becomes convinced of the inevitability of change she may also become aware of the many ways in which she has kept such change at bay. Almost every minute of the day people make small choices that together determine the direction of their life. Often that direction is embarked upon passively: people just conform to their own negative or mediocre predictions of the future. But once insight is gained into the possibility of reinterpreting a situation and opting for more constructive predictions a change for the better may come about. This requires the person to learn to live deliberately instead of by default, and it can only be achieved by first becoming aware of how one’s daily attitude and frame of mind is set to a form of automatic functioning that keeps one repeating the same mistakes.

It is not easy to break the force of habit, but there are always times when habits are broken by force. Crises are times when old patterns have to be revised and when changes for the better can be initiated. This is why existential therapists talk about a breakdown as a possible breakthrough and why people often note with astonishment that the disaster they tried so hard to avoid was a blessing in disguise. In times of crisis the attention is refocused on where priorities lie so that choices can be made with more understanding than previously.

Whether such an event is self-imposed (as in emigration or marriage) or not (as in natural disasters or bereavement) it has the effect of removing previously taken for granted securities. When this happens it becomes more difficult for us to obscure the aspects of existence that we would rather not think about, and we are compelled to reassess our own attitudes and values. In the ensuing chaos we must make choices about how to proceed and how to bring new order into our lives. If we can tolerate the uncertainty of such situations instead of fleeing towards a new routine, such times can be an opportunity for rectifying life’s direction.

Once a crisis has been faced in such a constructive manner it becomes easier to be open to change at other times as well. People can learn to re-evaluate their values and reassess their priorities continually, thus achieving a flexibility and vitality that allows them to make the most of life’s naturally transformative character. Many people dread change and hide from it but they have to face it at a time of crisis. Existential therapy can be particularly helpful in those circumstances.


Goals of therapy

The goals of existential therapy are to enable people to:

  • take stock of their situation, their values and beliefs;
  • successfully negotiate and come to terms with past, present and future crises;
  • become more truthful with themselves;
  • widen their perspective on themselves and the world around them;
  • find clarity on what their purpose in life is and how they can learn from the past to create some-

thing valuable and meaningful to live for;

  • understand themselves and others better and find ways of effectively communicating and

being with others;

  • make sense of the paradoxes conflicts and dilemmas of their, existence.

The word ‘authenticity’ is often used to indicate the goal of becoming true to oneself and therefore more real. This is a much-abused term, which misleadingly suggests that there is a true self; whereas the existential view is that self is relationship and process – not an entity or substance. Authenticity can also become an excuse for people who want to have their cake and eat it. Under the aegis of authenticity anything can be licensed: crude egoism may very well be the con- sequence. In fact, authenticity can never be fully achieved. It is a gradual process of self-understanding, but of the self as it is created in one’s relationships to the world on all levels. Helping people to become authentic therefore means assisting them in gaining a greater understanding of the human condition, so that they can respond to it with a sense of mastery, instead of being at its mercy. To be authentic means to face one’s human limitations and possibilities.

The task of the therapist is to have attained sufficient clarity and openness to be able to venture along with any client into murky waters and explore (without getting lost) how this person’s experience fits into a wider map of existence. Clients are guided through the disturbances in which they are caught and are helped to examine their assumptions, values and aspirations, so that a new direction can be taken. The therapist is fully available to this exploration and will often be changed in the process. The poignancy of each new adventure over the dangerous ground of life requires the therapist to become aware of previously unrecognized aspects of life. Therapy is a journey that client and therapist embark upon together. Both will be transformed, as they let themselves be touched by life.


Clients who come specifically for existential therapy usually already have the idea that their problems are about living, and are not a form of pathology. This basic assumption must be acceptable to clients if they are to benefit from the approach. A genuine commitment to an intense and very personal philosophical investigation is therefore a requirement. A critical mind and a desire to think for oneself are an advantage. People who want another’s opinion on what ails them and who would prefer symptom relief to a search for meaning might be better referred to other forms of therapy.

The approach is especially suitable for people who feel alienated from the expectations of society or for those seeking to clarify their personal ideology. The approach is relevant to people living in a foreign culture, class or race, as it does not dictate a specific way of looking at reality. It also works well with people confronting adversity in their lives or who are trying to cope with changes of personal circumstances (or want to bring those about). Bereavement, job loss or biological changes (in adolescence, middle age or old age) are a prime time for the reconsideration of the rules and values one has hitherto lived by. Generally speaking the existential approach is more helpful to those who question the state of affairs in the world, than to those who prefer the status quo. This approach seems to be most right for those at the edge of existence: people who are dying or contemplating suicide, people who are just starting on a new phase of life, people in crisis, or people who feel they no longer belong in their surroundings. It is less relevant for people who do not want to examine their assumptions and who would rather not explore the foundation of human existence.

Even though existential work consists in gaining understanding through talking, the client’s level of verbal ability is not important. Very young children or people who speak a foreign language will often find that the simpler their way of expressing things, the easier it becomes to grasp the essence of their worldview and experience. The approach is not about intellectualizing, but about verbalizing the basic impressions, ideas, intuitions and feelings a person has about life.

The existential approach can be applied in many different settings: individual, couple, family or group. When it involves more than one person at a time, the emphasis will be on clarifying the participants’ perceptions of the world and their place in it, in order to encourage communication and mutual understanding. The focus is always on the individual’s experiences and relationships. A dimension of existential exploration can easily be added to almost any other approach to psychotherapy, but it will soon be found that this makes a re-evaluation of one’s method necessary. Many of the more directive or prescriptive forms of therapy are in flagrant contradiction of existential principles. Interpretative methods such as psychoanalysis or analytical psychology betray the existential rule of openness to the different meanings that emerge for individuals. In the final analysis existential work requires a commitment to a philosophical investigation, which necessitates its own guidelines and parameters.


Good existential therapists combine personal qualities with accomplishment in method, but on balance it is more important that they have strength of character as people than that they have a high level of skill. Qualities can be described as falling into four categories: (a) life experience, (b) attitude and personality, (c) theoretical knowledge, (d) professional training.

Life experience

Existential therapists will be psychologically and emotionally mature as human beings. This maturity will manifest itself in an ability to make room in oneself for all sorts of, even contradictory, opinions, attitudes, feelings, thoughts and experiences. They will be open-minded about the many different facets of human living. Rather than clinging to one point of view, existential therapists will be capable of overseeing reality from a wide range of perspectives. They will also be able to tolerate the tension that such awareness of contradictions generates. There are a number of life experiences that appear to be particularly helpful in preparing people for such maturation and broad-mindedness. Cross- cultural experience is an excellent way to stretch the mind and one’s views on what it means to be human. People who have permanently had to adjust their whole way of perceiving and dealing with the world (especially when this includes a change of language) have had the all-important experience of ques- tioning previous assumptions and opening up to a new culture and perspective.

Raising a family, or caring for dependants in a close relationship, is another invaluable source of life experience relevant to creating an open attitude. Many women have great practical experience in this area. Their life experience can become one of the building blocks of the kind of maturity needed to become an existential therapist.

The experience of having been immersed in society from several angles, in different jobs, different academic studies, different social classes and so on, is a definite advantage. The existential therapist is likely to be someone who has lived seriously and intensely in a number of ways and not just through the caring professions. People opting for psychotherapy as a second career are often especially suitable. Finally, the sine qua non of becoming an existential therapist is to have negotiated a number of significant crossroads in one’s personal life. Existential therapists will have had their share of existential crises. Of course they will also have had to develop their ability to deal with these satisfactorily, so that their own lives were enriched rather than impoverished by the experience. Although all this maturity conjures up the image of someone advanced in age, it must be noted that maturity is not always commensurate with years. Some young people may have weathered greater storms than their elders and, what is more, may have lived their relatively shorter lives with greater intensity, maturing into fuller human beings.

Attitude and personality

Existential therapists should be capable of critical consideration of situations, people and ideas. They are serious, but not heavy-handed, downtrodden or cynical. They can be light-hearted, hopeful and humorous about the human condition, whilst intensely aware of the tragic poignancy of much of existence. They should be capable of self-reflection, recognizing the manner in which they them- selves represent the paradoxes, ups and downs, strengths and weaknesses that people are capable of. They should have a genuine sense of curiosity and a strong urge to find out what it means to be human. They should be capable of sustaining an attitude of wonder. Existential therapists will now and then abandon psychological theory altogether and reach for poetry, art or religion instead. They will tend to be quite personal in their way of working. Before anything else they must demonstrate their ability to tolerate experiences of anxiety and despair without faltering and without succumbing.

Theoretical knowledge

A basic working knowledge of philosophy, that is of the controversies and perspectives that the human race has produced over the centuries, is more useful to this approach than any other kind of knowledge. Included in this would be a familiarity with the history of psychology and psychoanalysis and a wide study of the many different approaches to psychotherapy that have been developed over the years. This will provide a map of different views on human nature, health and illness, happiness and unhappiness, which again will train and broaden the mind and personal outlook of the therapist. In addition a practical knowledge of human interaction and the dynamics of the therapeutic relation- ship is essential.

Professional training

The existential therapist needs the kind of training that an eclectic therapist needs: a generic one. But instead of borrowing bits and pieces of technique from each to produce a complex amalgam, essentials are distilled and applied within a consistent philosophical framework. Specific skills of dialectical interaction can then be developed. Training should consist of a significant amount of therapeutic work under supervision and of self-reflection and analysis. Here again it is the quality that will be judged instead of the quantity. Numbers of hours of individual and group therapy are irrelevant. Some people will not reach the necessary perspective and depth with any amount of therapy. Others will be well ahead by having engaged in a discipline of self-reflection for years. The degree of readiness usually becomes obvious in supervision sessions, for one’s response to other people’s troubles is an excellent test of one’s own attitude to life and level of self-knowledge. Existential training will enable therapists to think creatively about complex human dilemmas.


It is important for the existential therapist to have a flexible attitude towards therapeutic style. Not only do different therapists interpret the approach in diverse ways, but clients also have their own individual requirements, which may vary over time. The existential therapist is ready and willing to shift her stance when the situation requires this. In a sense this variability is characteristic of the existential therapeutic style.

There are, of course, common features running through all of this. All existential therapists, for example, strive to recognize and question their preconceptions and prejudices as much as possible in their work. There is also a consistent appreciation of the unique situation of the client. The existential therapist strives to take the dilemmas of the client seriously – eschewing recourse to diagnoses and solutions. This seriousness includes openness and wonder as essential attributes of the existential attitude and does not preclude humour when appropriate.

Existential therapists are fundamentally concerned with what matters most to the client. He or she avoids making normative judgements, and renounces any ambition to, even implicitly, push the client in any particular direction. The attitude is non-directive, but not directionless. The client is assisted in finding his or her own perspective and position in the world in relation to the parameters and limits of human existence. At times the therapist might facilitate the client’s investigations through an attitude of relative passivity and silent intervention. At other times active dialogue and debate are required. On such occasions the therapist intervenes to point out contradictions in or implications of the client’s avowed point of view. The use of confrontation to offer opinions or moral evaluations of the client is not consistent with the existential attitude. The existential therapist resists the temptation to try and change the client. The therapy is an opportunity for the client to take stock of her life and ways of being in the world. Nothing is gained from interfering with these. The client is simply given the space, time and understanding to help her come to terms with what is true for her. What she wants to do with this afterwards is up to her. The therapist does not teach or preach about how life should be lived, but lets the client’s personal taste in the art of living evolve naturally within the context of existential and social constructions.

The only times when the therapist does follow a didactic line is when she reminds the client of aspects of a problem that have been overlooked. She gently encourages the client to notice a lack of perspective, think through consequences and struggle with contradictions. She puts forward missing links and underlying principles. The therapist never does the work for the client but makes sure that the work gets done. The client’s inevitable attempts to shirk and flee from the task in hand are reflected on and used as concrete evidence of the client’s attitude to life. The same can be said of the actual encounter between the client and the therapist, which is also reflected on and seen as evidence of the client’s usual ways of relating.

Generally speaking the therapeutic style follows a conversational pattern. Issues are considered and explored in dialogue. The rhythm of the sessions will follow that of the client’s preoccupations – faster when emotions are expressed and slower when complex ideas are disentangled. Existential therapists need to learn to allow clients to take the amount of space and time in this conversation that they need in order to proceed at their own pace. Existential therapists create sufficient room for the client to feel that it is possible to unfold their troubles.

Existential sessions are usually quite intense, since deep and significant issues often emerge. Moreover, the therapist is personally engaged with the work and is willing to be touched and moved by the client’s conflicts and questions. The human dilemmas expressed in the therapeutic encounter have as much relevance to the therapist as to the client. This commonality of experience makes it possible for client and therapist to work together as a team, in a co-operative effort to throw light on human existence. Every new challenge in the client’s experience is grist for the mill. The therapeutic relationship itself brings many opportunities to grasp some- thing of the nature of human interaction. The therapist, in principle, is ready to consider any past, present or future matter that is relevant to the client. The therapist is constantly aware of her own bias in approaching the client’s difficulties and aims to recognize it sufficiently for it not to interfere with the work on the client’s bias.


The existential approach is well known for its anti-technique orientation. It prefers description, understanding and exploration of reality to diagnosis, treatment and prognosis. Existential therapists will not generally use particular techniques, strategies or skills, but they will follow a specific philosophical method of enquiry, which requires a consistent professional attitude. This method and attitude may be interpreted in various ways, but it usually includes some or all of the following ingredients.

Cultivating a naive attitude

By consistently meeting the client with an open mind and in the spirit of exploration and discovery a fresh perspective on the world will emerge. This requires a great deal of intellectual discipline on the part of the therapist, who continuously has to observe and question her own prejudice and bias.

Themes: clear themes will run through the apparently confused discourse of the client. The therapist listens for the unspoken links that are implicit in what is said. When the theme is obvious and has been confirmed several times, the client’s attention can be drawn to it. Personal myths and stories are recognized and beliefs and fantasies about the world unveiled. Existential work enables people to create more satisfactory life narratives (Tantam, 2002).

Assumptions: much of what the client says will be based on a number of basic assumptions about the world. Generally people are unaware of these. Clarifying implicit assumptions can be very revealing and may throw new light on a dilemma. Every statement we make reveals our assumptions, and therapists need to make sure these become explicit.

Vicious circles: many people are caught up in self-fulfilling prophecies of doom and destruction without realizing that they set their own low standards and goals. Making such vicious circles explicit can be a crucial step forward. Self- fulfilling prophecies can become positive instead of negative.

Meaning: often people assume that they know what they mean when they talk about something. But the words they use can hide, even from themselves, the significance of what they mean. By questioning the superficial meaning of the client’s words and asking her to think again of what she wants to express, a new awareness may be brought about.

Values: people live their lives by standards and principles that establish values which they often take for granted and of which they are only dimly aware. Getting clarity about what makes life worth living and which aspects of life are most important and deserve making sacrifices for is a key step towards finding one’s sense of direction and purpose.

Facing limitations

As the existential approach is essentially concerned with the need to face the limitations of the human condition, the therapist will be alert for opportunities to help the client identify these. This means facing up to ultimate concerns, such as death, guilt, freedom, isolation, meaninglessness, etc.

Self-deception: much of the time we pretend that life has determined our situation and character so much that we have no choices left. Crises may provide us with proof to the contrary. The safe crisis of the therapeutic interaction is a suitable place for rediscovering opportunities and challenges that had been forgotten.

Existential anxiety: the anxiety that indicates one’s awareness of inevitable limitations and death is also a dizziness in the face of freedom and a summoning of life energy. Existential anxiety is the sine qua non of individual awareness and full aliveness. Some people have dulled their sensitivity so as to avoid the basic challenges of life, others are overwhelmed by them and yet others have found ways of disguising them. Optimal use of anxiety is one of the goals of existential work. The therapist will recognize the client’s existential anxiety and will assist in finding ways of living with it constructively.

Existential guilt: the sense of being in debt to life and owing it to oneself to accomplish certain task before it is can give us, too late insight into our limitations and priorities. Therapists watch for existential guilt hidden in various disguises (such as anxiety, boredom, depression or even apparent self-confidence).

Consequences: clients are sometimes challenged to think through the consequences of choices, both past and future. In facing the implications of one’s actions it becomes necessary to recognize limitations as well as possibilities.

Some choices become easier to make; others become less attractive. Existential therapy does not condone the clients’ tendency to want only support and acceptance and wallow in a sense of their own suffering; it encourages clients to confront their own responsibilities in relation to the world, other people and themselves.

Paradoxes: in helping the client to become more authentic the concept of paradox can be of great help. If people are inclined to evade the basic human dilemma of life and death and contradictions that flow from it, their self- affirmation may look more like egocentricity. Checking that a person is aware of her capacity for both life and death, success and failure, freedom and necessity, certainty and doubts, allows one to remain in touch with a fundamental search for truth.

Exploring personal world view

The existential approach is open to all of life’s dimensions, tasks and problems, and the therapist will in principle explore together with the client all information that the latter brings along. It is essential to follow the client’s lead and under- stand her particular take on the world.

The fourfold world: using the model of four dimensions of existence discussed earlier it becomes possible to listen to the client’s account of herself as revealing her preoccupations with particular levels of her existence. A systematic analysis of how the client expresses her relationship to the physical, social, psychological and spiritual dimensions of her world can provide much insight into imbalance, priorities and impasses. An impression can be formed of where on the whole territory of human existence the client is struggling for clarity. Intuitions, feelings, thoughts, sensations, dreams and fantasies are all grist for the mill.

Dreams: listening to dreams with this model in mind can be extremely enlightening. The dream is seen as a message of the dreamer to herself. The dream experience reflects the dreamer’s attitudes on the various dimensions of existence and the client’s dream existence and world relations in it are considered as concrete as those of waking life.

Of course the same applies to the fantasies or stories that the client reports. Each of these is a miniature picture of the way in which she relates to the world and much can be learned from examining them carefully.

Questioning: exploring the client’s worldview is an ongoing enterprise and it is best done with an observation-orientated attitude. Questions are often asked in order to check whether a certain event or situation is seen in a particular light. Existential therapists will make observations and inferences and elicit further material that will either confirm or disconfirm hypotheses. The therapist draws the client’s attention to what seems to be the case. Sometimes an enquiry might be made in order to clarify a perception, along the lines of an exploration: ‘What makes this so important to you?’, or ‘What is this like for you?’, or ‘What does it mean to you?’ The question never suggests a solution or judges right or wrong, but investigates the client’s personal opinion and inclination. Initial explanations will almost always be questioned and explored in greater depth.

Enquiring into meaning

All investigations eventually lead to a greater understanding of what makes the world meaningful to the client. The idea is to assist the client in finding purpose and motivation, direction and vitality. In the process a number of irrelevant and misleading motivations may be encountered and eliminated. Quite often new interpretations of past or present events are arrived at, altering the client’s orien- tation to life and the future.

Emotions: feelings are of great help in this process. Understanding the meaning of one’s emotions and moods and the message they contain in terms of what one aspires to or is afraid to lose is of crucial help in finding the pattern of purpose currently at work. Each emotion has its own significance (van Deurzen, 2002) and the whole range of the emotional spectrum can be used as a compass in indicating one’s direction in life. Emotions like shame, envy and hope are indicators of values that are still missing but implicitly longed for. Love, joy and pride are within the range of emotions that indicate a sense of ownership of what is valued. Whereas jealousy and anger express an active response to the threat that what is valued may be lost, fear and sorrow come with the giving up and eventual loss of what really mattered.

Beliefs: all observations on the client’s preoccupations lead to a picture of her opinions, beliefs and values. It is important to extract these respectfully. Nothing can be gained from opposing the client’s values with an alternative set of values. It is the client’s conscience that has to be uncovered and revitalized. If deeply held values are contested or criticized conformity will be encouraged rather than reliance on an inner sense of purpose. Light is thrown on the ways in which personal beliefs may fail to take into account wider implications for others. This will expand the system of beliefs into something that can encompass the facts of life and a broader frame of reference.

Talents: many talents, abilities and assets will have been hidden by the client’s preoccupation with what is wrong with her. The therapist will attend to these and strive to draw attention to the wisdom and strength that are lying fallow. Often it is useful for the therapist to build on the example of the client’s abilities as they come to the fore and use them as the point of reference for further understanding.

Recollection: memories will be seen as malleable and open to new interpretation. While clients often set out with fixed views of their past they discover the possibility of reconsidering the same events and experiences in different ways. It is essential to encourage clients to discover how they influence their future with their own version of the past and how it is within their power to re-collect themselves in new ways, thereby opening new vistas. When the client realizes that she is the ultimate source of the meaning of her life, past, present and future, living is experienced as an art rather than a duty.


The aim of existential therapy is not to change people but to help them to come to terms with the transformative process of life. The assumption is that when people do face reality they are likely to find a satisfactory way forward. People are often hurried and under the impression that they can speed life up and force great rewards out of it with relatively little effort. One of the aims of existential therapy is to enable people to stop deceiving themselves about both their lack of responsibility for what is happening to them and their excessive demands on life and themselves. Learning to measure one’s distress by the standards of the human condition relieves pressure and at the same time pro- vides a clearer ideological basis for making sense of personal preoccupations and aspirations. Clients change through existential therapy by gradually taking more and more of life’s ups and downs in their stride. They can become more steadfast in facing death, crises, personal shortcomings, losses and failures if they accept the reality of constant transformation that we are all part of. They can find ways of tuning into these changes, instead of fighting them or trying to speed them up.

In other words they can acquire a measure of wisdom in learning to distinguish between the things they can change and those they cannot change. They can come to terms with the givens and find the courage to tackle the uncertain- ties. They can find out what matters enough to them to be committed to it, live for it and ultimately perhaps even die for it.

As they are constantly reminded to do their own thinking on these issues, people can learn to monitor their own actions, attitudes and moods. The therapy gives clients an opportunity to rediscover the importance of relating to them- selves and taking time for contemplation and recreation. Existential therapy teaches a discipline for living which consists of a frequent process of checking what one’s attitude, inclination, mood and frame of mind are, bringing them back in line with reality and personal aspirations.

Change is initiated in the sessions, but not accomplished in them. The process of transformation takes place in between the sessions and after therapy has terminated. The therapeutic hour itself can never be more than a small contribution to a person’s renewed engagement with life. It is only a kind of rehearsal for life. The change process is never-ending. As long as there is life there will be change. There is no place for complacency or a self-congratulatory belief in cure.

As existential therapy has no criterion for cure, it could in theory be an end- less process. To make sure it does not become this, the criterion for finishing a series of sessions is simply to stop when the client feels ready to manage on her own again. To encourage such self-reliance, relatively short-term therapy is encouraged (three months to two years), though sometimes the process will take a little longer.


The emphasis that the existential approach places on self-reflection and under- standing can lead to certain limitations. The approach often attracts clients who feel disinclined to trust other human beings because they perceive the existential approach as leaving them in total control. This limitation can only be overcome by a therapist who neither fights the need nor leaves it unchallenged, but who assists the client in turning such self-reliance to a positive end.

The approach is also often misconstrued as ‘intellectual’. Some existential therapists tend to emphasize the cognitive aspect of their clients’ preoccupations and some clients are attracted to the approach with the hope of avoiding senses, feeling and intuition. A good existential therapist would heed all these different levels of experience, as full self-understanding can be achieved only through openness to all different aspects of being. Nevertheless the emphasis on self- reflection remains central and the criticism is therefore a valid one to some degree.

The practical limitations of the approach have already been referred to in the section on selection criteria. As the approach does not stress the illness–health dimension, people who directly want to relieve specific symptoms will generally find the existential approach unsuitable though they may cover that symptoms tend to disappear when these fundamental life issue are addressed.

The existential therapist neither encourages the client to regress to a deep level of dependency nor seeks to become a significant other in the client’s life and nurture the client back to health. The therapist is a consultant who can provide the client with a method for and systematic support in facing the truth, and in this sense is there to allow the client to relate to herself more than to the therapist. This might be considered a limitation of the approach by clients who wish to regress and rely on the therapist as a substitute parental figure. Good existential therapists obviously enable the client to confront that issue just as bravely as any other issue and come through with greater self- understanding.

Perhaps the most absolute limitation is that of the level of maturity, life experience and intensive training that is required of practitioners in this field. It should be clear from the above that existential therapists are required to be wise and capable of profound and wide-ranging understanding of what it means to be human. The criteria of what makes for a good existential therapist are so high that the chances of finding bad existential therapists must be considerable.

One can imagine the danger of therapists pretending to be capable of this kind of wisdom without actual substance or inner authority. Little would be gained by replacing technological or medical models of therapy, which can be concretely learned and applied by practitioners, with a range of would-be existential coaches who are incapable of facing life’s problems with dignity and creativity themselves. The only way around this is to create training organizations that select candidates extremely carefully on personal qualities and experience before putting them through a thorough training and a long period of intensively supervised work.

Case example

The client

Jerry R. enters my consulting room with a combination of confidence and coyness. He immediately strikes me as a young man with more than his fair share of gravitas, which he somehow seems to carry as a burden. With great aplomb he pauses to shake my hand and introduce himself. I indicate an armchair by the fire and invite him to take a seat. Before sitting down, he carefully folds his raincoat and places it over another chair, glancing at me sideways, checking for approval. Every gesture is made with precision and attention to detail. He unbuttons his smart black jacket and crosses his legs, exposing perfectly matched blue socks and shirt. He wears pristine black patent leather shoes, which he taps gently in rhythm with his words. His appearance is handsome and he carries his rather sultry Mediterranean looks with self-assurance. He brushes a lock of wavy black hair off his forehead with panache and poses both elbows on the armrests of his seat, folding his hands into a neat dome; index fingers pressed firmly together pointing upwards. He retains this posture with great poise and dignity for at least ten minutes. His manner is polite and friendly. He smiles hesitantly with one corner of his mouth when I ask him what brings him to my practice. When he speaks it is to express his hesitance in coming to see me upon his solicitor’s recommendation and his voice is sophisticated and melodious. I encourage him to give me some background in spite of his doubts about therapy and without much further prompting he provides me with a full and systematic picture of his life.

He tells me again that his name is Jerry R. (and he puts great emphasis on his last name as if I ought to recognize it). He is a single man of thirty-two. He was born in Paris, but raised in London where his father is an executive director for a large French company. He confirms that both his parents are French though he now has dual nationality himself. When I remark that his name sounds English, he blushes unexpectedly and explains that he is really called Jerôme and that he has adopted a more English sounding name in order to fit in with his peers. I say affirmatively: ‘to avoid teasing’, whilst looking at him enquiringly. He agrees with one firm nod that makes his hair flop back onto his forehead, but instead of pushing it back with his fingers, this time he tosses it back with an energetic movement of his head. He grins at me disarmingly and I hold his gaze, noticing that his brown eyes are watering, belying his exterior poise. He is still blushing. ‘There was a lot of teasing’, he says quietly and I can hear a hint of a French accent for the first time.‘You went to an English school then?’ I speculate. He nods again, vigorously and tells me that he is an only child and has always been very close to his mother. He went to the French school in London for his primary education but for his secondary education his father insisted that he should be sent away to a boarding school somewhere in the Home Counties. There he had to fit in with the English upper middle classes and he had decided it would be wise to change his name. He never felt at ease in his school and used to complain about this bitterly to his parents. His mother tried to convince his father for many years to let him be educated at home instead, but his father was adamant that Jerry should tough it out and stop being a mother’s boy.

Jerry thinks he has never forgiven his father for this callousness, but all the same he does take some pride in having managed to comply with his father’s expectations, sticking it out till his final exams. He pauses for a minute before admitting (blushing again) that he did have regular illnesses during this period of his life which afforded him time off at home being cosseted by his mother. He tells me, animatedly, that she is a fantastic and elegant woman with a great sense of beauty and fun. His genuine admiration for his mother is refreshing and touching but it also arouses my suspicion, because it is rare in one so young. He informs me with relish that he has always been the apple of her eye. She did not fail to convey to him that she favoured him over his father, who was often absent. He has no siblings, though his mother had a miscarriage soon after the family moved to England when he was about two years old.

After his secondary education he went to University in York, at which point his parents, at his mother’s insistence, bought a country house in Yorkshire, where he would usually spend his weekends with mother, while father was in the flat in London or the apartment in Paris. After his degree he lived in the London flat himself for a few years, sometimes sharing with his father. This was a relatively good time in his life, especially when dad was away in Paris or elsewhere. He had really enjoyed his professional training in photography, making portraiture his speciality. Since then he has been working as a freelance photographer and enjoys his job when it leaves him enough room for creativity. He has occasionally done photography jobs for his father’s company at official functions. He has mixed feelings about working with Dad, who is rather controlling.

Jerry has many friends, some very successful in their careers, some unemployed and he spans between these two worlds with ease and relish. He tells me with pride that he has had two girlfriends and that the second one, Jessica, is still part of his life now. From the way in which he describes Jessica in a rather detached and photo- graphic manner, I catch myself wondering whether there have been any boyfriends as well. He seems to expect my reaction and pre-empts a question by volunteering somewhat shyly that before his first girlfriend, he used to ‘occasionally indulge in sexual play’ with male friends. Here again he blushes and averts his eyes to avoid my gaze. I ask him if he finds men and women equally attractive and he confirms this, saying tentatively: ‘I suppose I could be described as bi-sexual’. I weigh these words for a moment, pondering his hesitancy before asking him kindly whether this is indeed how he would describe himself. Now he looks at me rather mischievously and he sounds relieved and rather reckless as he replies: ‘That all depends on who I am speaking to. My parents for instance do not know about any of this and Jessica certainly does not have a clue.’ His voice trails off. I declare sympathetically: ‘Ah, so you lead a double life!’ He nods regretfully and tells me of his inner conflicts in relation to his choice of partners and of his mother’s insistence that he should behave the same way as his cousins and all of her friends’ children, who by his age generally were married. He feels he has tried, for he has lived with Jessica occasionally over the past three years, but they decided to go their separate ways after his accident. I reckon there is a little bit more to it. There is a pause. We look at each other meaningfully. We both know we need to pursue this particular path for a bit. ‘Your accident then … ’ I state calmly and look at him to invite his account of what has brought him to my consulting room today.

Presenting problem

Jerry reminds me that he is coming to see me for post-traumatic stress. His solicitor has referred him to me to help him overcome the after effects of a motorbike accident. About nine months ago Jerry was coming back from a holiday in France when he got caught sideways by a lorry on the slip road to a petrol station. He was dragged along for thirty yards and remained in a coma for several hours, had multiple fractures, including a skull fracture, and severe concussion. His physical recovery is nearly complete though he is still walking with some difficulty, something I only fully observe when he leaves my office at the end of the session.

Mentally and emotionally he feels a wreck. He says that he has terrible trouble sleeping since the accident. He feels anxious and depressed most of the time. He is incapable of doing work and cannot concentrate. He hates being with people. He has some flash- backs even though he has retrograde amnesia that stops him clearly recollecting the accident. Mostly he just doesn’t think the world is a safe place anymore. He figures he has had too much time to lie in bed and worry about things and a lot of his old problems have come back to haunt him. He sounds casually and painfully dismissive of his own plight and I stop him in his tracks by raising my eyebrows questioningly. He takes my cue immediately and informs me that these were his dad’s words. Mum and Dad have had arguments over his illness. Dad has written it off as ‘all in the mind’. Mum has been over-protective. He does not know what to think of it himself and he hates having to go through all the legal stuff and psychiatric examinations to get the settlement sorted. He doesn’t want to come across as weak and wishes he could just get back to normal. Yet, when he has tried to resume his old life, he has felt incapable of doing so. He has had to bail out of a photographic assignment in London, when he started to panic and feel queasy on the train down for instance. He does not recognize himself anymore. Somehow the accident has changed him and he thinks that nothing can ever be the same again. He thinks he could do with some help in getting his self-assurance back. We agree to work together for as long as it takes to build up his confidence and re-establish his independence again.


Initial phase

A formulating the predicament:

As Jerry engages with the therapy and reveals more about himself and his shocking lack of self-confidence his previous front of cool composure melts like snow before the sun. His posture shifts markedly as he slumps in the chair, pulling his legs underneath him and hugging himself. He says he has lost the

capacity to enjoy himself and feels unable to socialize. Other people just seem to him to talk nonsense, especially Jessica. He has told her he does not want to see her any- more. She doesn’t like coming up to Yorkshire anyway and she hates dealing with his illness, so the break-up has suited them both, he says cynically. He is also quite happy to avoid seeing his Dad now that he is not going to London anymore. Dad has been insensitive about the entire accident and just keeps talking about ‘getting back into the saddle’, he sneers. He makes a face and I invite him to put his grimace into words. I am aware that he is dismissing all the people in his life and I gently keep him exploring his disappointment rather than letting him pretend to not care. At first though he just needs encouragement to speak his frustration with the way he feels treated by others.

B rethinking the predicament:

He says his Dad is always in the saddle and has no other way to live. He has no time for anyone but himself or his business. Dad, he says with a pained expression, is a sad and twisted figure. I help Jerry look at this slightly differently by suggesting that he simply cannot take his Dad seriously anymore. He agrees wholeheartedly and adds that he does not understand why he used to feel so overawed by his father. He feels Dad understands nothing about other people at all. When I query what people he means, Jerry recognizes that he feels Dad understands him least of all. But he can also see how Dad is ruining his mother’s life by not loving her and by having regular affairs in London and abroad. He is strongly dismissive of his father’s conduct. I meekly point out that he speaks as if he feels superior to his Dad and this surprises him. Upon reflection he thinks he is probably beginning to feel strong enough to take his Dad on. He does not understand why his mother accepts his father’s odious behaviour. I point out he is now also challenging his mother’s behaviour and ask him if he himself has stood up to his dad about this. He can see now that he used to turn a blind eye to his father’s deceitful way of life and that he was too cowardly to confront him. He is tearful again but is annoyed with himself for crying. When I reassuringly suggest that his accident has made him more sensitive to all these experiences and that there may be some good in allowing the process to unfold, he gratefully accepts this idea. He does want to allow himself to experience and understand what was previously out of his ken. This is the first time he acknowledges that something positive may come out of what so far has seemed mostly negative. This will become a repeated theme: that the accident has revealed things that were previously hidden and that he wants to be in a new and better position to con- tend with all this. At the moment he sees human tragedy, danger and risk every- where and he feels overwhelmed by it. He is very concerned that he has lost his touch: he perceives and understands more than before but he lacks the strength to deal with it.

He sighs: ‘The world has become overpowering. It is all too much … ’ He looks down avoiding my gaze and his voice trails off as if he can’t cope anymore and is appealing for mercy. But rather than folding and going along with his weakness I now up the stakes: ‘Because you are both more vulnerable and more aware now. There is a great challenge to you here. You cannot hide any longer.’ He nods thought- fully, but he doesn’t look up. I wait before I continue speaking very slowly and whilst carefully observing his reaction: ‘and you also just acknowledged that this is freeing you from some old ideas and gives you a new perspective on other people, for instance on your father’. ‘Yes’, he says softly, hesitantly, as if he is wondering whether or not to pick up the gauntlet thrown at him: ‘but it makes me feel as if I am losing it. It feels as if I am reverting to what I used to be in secondary school: I feel different to other people.’ As I say nothing, he carries on: ‘I just feel so weak’. There is a brief silence between us. I speak tentatively when I reply eventually: ‘It is your feeling of weakness that is the real problem then?’ ‘Hmmm’, he mumbles. I want to establish whether we are on the same page and continue: ‘if you were able to feel stronger in relation to your new sensitivity and clear observations about others, then this new way of being might actually become a good thing, you think?’ He ponders and sways from side to side as he considers my point, literally wavering. Then a frank smile breaks through on his face as if a new idea has just sprung to mind. He hazards an interpretation: ‘Well, yes, it would actually. If I could hold on to my under- standing of what is happening around me and would not feel so overwhelmed by it all the whole time, then I could really quite enjoy it. It is quite creative in a way.’ He glances at me sideways as if to check my response. I smile encouragingly and he carries on: ‘You know, it’s a bit like artistic inspiration. I am in a new groove.’ I nod, smiling too. I say nothing. He beams and looks at me expectantly. I know he needs me to nail it down for him, summarize it somehow. I speak unhurriedly, finding the words little by little by thinking back to what he has discovered and articulated so far. He listens attentively, all ears, as if it is all coming together at last. What I say is nothing new, but somehow it needs saying. He needs to hear his predicament summarized and brought down to manageable size. He needs to be reminded of what he is up against, so that he can get ready to deal with it. ‘Something awful and important has happened in your life: a terrifying experience, an accident, out of the blue, shaking everything up, bringing you close to death, making everything seem different, giving you lots of new insights, a new perspective, different ideas about the world’. He approves. I look at him, wondering whether that is enough and whether he can take over and pursue the thought further, or whether he wants me to continue. He looks into my eyes now, openly, kind of confirming that he can stand it after all. He knows now that I don’t think him ridiculous or outrageous and that I value his struggle. He can begin to trust me. He can work with me and he does as he steps in to correct me: ‘But sometimes it doesn’t feel like that though’, he hastens to add. ‘Sometimes I just feel like I have been smashed to bits.’ ‘Yes’, I say mildly, ‘you still need to digest and process all this new experience so that you can integrate it and use it to good effect. You need to build new strength gradually, so as to be equal to your new sensitivity.’ He agrees again, enthusiastically. He feels buoyed up by my explanation of his weakness and the implied remedy for it. I see a glint of hope in his eyes as he smiles broadly.

c tackling the predicament:  Then he tells me spontaneously how he has actively been avoiding his former group of friends and fears he is becoming a bit of a recluse. As is so often the case my encouragement makes him able to expose his lack of courage. I only need to prompt him a little bit for him to acknowledge that all this avoidance keeps him weak. We immediately agree that he has needed to avoid people for a while just to protect himself. It is alright. He really could not cope with all these people while he was so unwell. My approach is one of approving his past coping strategy whilst exposing its current redundancy. He speaks with gusto of how much he hates being in London nowadays. He cannot tolerate the noise and the traffic and he is scared of buses and trucks. This is a bit of a problem. He knows he will have to tackle it eventually. He feels much better in his mother’s country house, away from it all and cannot see himself going back to work. He has been living in Yorkshire with his mother ever since he came out of hospital and hopes to get a big insurance pay-out to allow him to continue living like this for a long time to come. Mother is worried about him, but enjoys fussing over him and she has told him and her friends that the accident has been a blessing in disguise because it has brought her son back to her. I point out that he looks both pleased and worried about this. This brings a wry smile to his lips. He is relieved to be able to speak the unspeakable love/ hate relationship he has with his Mum. We spend a long time debating this. He wants closeness with her and yet feels squashed by her. He agrees it will be best not to stay living at home for too long. This makes it so the more important for him to engage with the therapy.

He is beginning to formulate now what he wants from therapy: processing the distress and help him to get a new understanding of his past and present life, so that he can make something good out of the pieces he seems to have broken into when the lorry hit his head. He would like to sleep properly again and to feel less insecure when he goes out, but he does not want to go back to his old life. That is out of the question. He checks with me about the confidentiality of our conversations and then admits freely that he wants to get as much money out of the insurance company as possible and has no particular motivation to get back to normal. At the same time he does not want to end up as a disabled person, nor as someone who lacks in moral fibre or who is afraid all the time, as he is now. He is worried about his panic attacks and his lack of appetite for life. He cannot carry on this way and will make sure he gets himself sorted out as we work together over the next few months.

We agree then that he will use this time of weakness and incapacity to take stock of his life and make a new start. He can see how having hit rock bottom provides him with an opportunity to rebuild himself from scratch. He does not want to pre- tend and try to be the popular boy who pleases his mother and father anymore. He wants to rebuild his life on solid ground this time. He now feels therapy is a real chance of getting things right and he becomes a bit of a fan, reading therapy books and self-help books for fun.

Middle phase

a. recognizing the vicious circles:

By taking things so seriously Jerry quickly gets the hang of therapy and makes the most of it. He brings his concerns openly and does not hide his feelings and fears. Although he tries to play his PTSD symptoms down it becomes clear that the accident has nonetheless left a serious mark on him: the world seems unpredictable and sometimes he feels terrified in the face of things he used to take for granted as part of everyday life. Essentially he cannot face any form of transportation; he hates trains and cars and feels uncomfortable even on an ordinary bike. During the first months of therapy his mother drives him into Sheffield for the sessions and this becomes quite an issue since it brings out the conflicts in his relationship to her. His physical dependency on his Mum feeds the craving for her affection, but it also makes him increasingly impatient with her. I just encourage him to speak about it all and help him become aware of the old vicious circle. I also draw his attention to his frustration and his desire to escape from it.

b. facing limitations:

I keep telling him to simply observe his relationship to his mum rather than to try to change it. This frees him to realize he wants to change it for his own sake. He starts noticing that she seems to encourage his reliance on her. Then, with very little prompting, he begins to think about her dependency on him. It strikes him for the first time that she has always needed him as much as he needed her. It occurs to him that his mother has claimed him as the special person who can shield her from the world in the same way in which he needs her to shield him from the world just now. The difference is that he wants to get independent of her, whilst she seems to want him to remain dependent. But then he is not certain about this either. There is much evidence to the contrary too and sometimes he feels confused about it. In many ways it is him who is clinging to her. He wonders: ‘Is it wrong for my mother and I to feel comfort in each other’s company?’ and he returns to this question regularly. It is the central dilemma of his life. Sometimes it is phrased as: ‘should I be independent and suffer alone or should I rely on another and learn to be close?’ At other times it is formulated as: ‘is it possible to tolerate the difficulties of a hazardous world without hiding in a safe place?’ By allowing these questions to emerge out of his struggles with the concrete problems of his daily existence he begins to reflect on his life in a way he has not done before. He comes to accept that his mother’s love has always been an essential part of his self-confidence and that there is nothing wrong with reclaiming it at this point in his life to help him to find his feet again. Once he feels entitled to making the most of their closeness and stops fighting it, he can begin to see the limits of their mutual dependency as well. It becomes obvious to him that it can stop them both from exploring further afield and can hinder as much as help his recovery. He is starting to see how it is stopping his mother from moving on in her own life as well. She spends time with him, protecting him from his panic attacks instead of finishing her interior decorating course. He notices how she reproaches his father for not spending more time with them in Yorkshire to be with their injured son, rather than confronting the reality of the long standing estrangement in the marriage. Quite quickly simply by being able to talk about his observations and understand what is going on, he becomes able to confront her on her hypocrisy rather than siding with her against Dad as he used to in the past. He can even tell her that he knows how she has always encouraged Dad to live his own life and has pushed him away because she would rather just be with her son anyway. He is surprised to find that his mother is grateful to him for saying these things to her rather than feeling hurt. It proves to him that he is now getting stronger than he has ever been before and he relishes this idea.

c.finding new meaning:

We generally talk very little of his post-traumatic symptoms, though we spend a little time thinking about suitable strategies in relation to insomnia and fear of public transport. By sticking to the very basic daily struggles he brings to therapy and helping him to clarify and understand his own experience and observations, he begins to recognise his own capacity for solving each of these problems. He comes for some twenty sessions before he realizes that he is dealing with his daily life in a new way. He is getting stronger. He isn’t fighting his symptoms and fears anymore but looks forward to facing them because in doing so he can take up the challenge of understanding the underlying dynamics. He recognizes that the trauma of the accident has opened his eyes to the complexities and dangers of living in a way he had never thought possible and he admits one day that he is beginning to enjoy the work of relearning to exist and that he now looks forward to therapy sessions.

His general therapeutic reading is moving towards a focus on existential literature and he becomes an expert at arguing with me about philosophical interpretations of his experience. He enjoys sitting up at night reading books and he stops complaining of insomnia all together. I challenge him to apply his newly found philosophical expertise to the concrete problems that persist in his physical existence and he starts experimenting with ways of overcoming his fear of transportation at this stage. He begins a programme of country walking, working up from two miles a day to seven or eight miles a day. He is aware that walking is safer for him than relying on mechanical means of transport, even though he finds it quite challenging to walk on the side of A-roads where cars and trucks rush past him. As he gets used to the traffic on these roads, he feels his confidence returning and he starts riding his old push- bike along small country lanes. He finds the freedom of this experience so exhilarating that he acquires a new cross-country bike and a lot of sophisticated biking equipment and learns new skills in negotiating the hills of the Yorkshire countryside. He has no interest in going back on a motorbike, but without even mentioning it to me, he resumes driving a car to come into town to attend sessions or to pick up new materials for his bike.

End phase

a. facing anxiety and guilt:

Jerry’s fears of traffic are slowly abating as he finds a way to negotiate the world of transportation by relying on his own wits. He is somewhat concerned at his progress, for we are now some 30 weeks into the ther- apy and his insurance claim for the posttraumatic stress has still not been settled. He worries that his forthcoming psychiatric report will not corroborate his original PTSD diagnosis, since he is now ‘nearly cured’, and that his insurance claim will be in jeopardy. This is a strange, but not unusual, predicament and we talk about it quite a bit. He agrees that it is not worth pretending to be ill for the sake of a pay- off if the price of this is to stop him getting better. Honesty and facing up to his experience have been the core of his improvement. He cannot undo this now. Would it be so bad if he did not have a huge pay out? Might it even be better to challenge himself and pick up his life by himself rather than being cushioned by the insurance company? We think about how he might cope if he were destitute and alone. He gets great comfort from the idea that he would actually relish the challenge.

b. getting real:

When the psychiatric assessment does come, he finds, to his relief that the assessment is mainly related to his professional life. The fact that he has not resumed his job and is not likely to fully do so for another few months, makes all the difference to the settlement. We both breathe a sigh of relief when this is sorted, for now there is nothing more to stop his improvement. I had grave doubts about his willingness to get back to work until his compensation claim had been put behind him. Now we can finally discuss his ambivalent attitude towards his job. Eventually he comes to the conclusion that he misses his photography but not the work in London.

The moment the case is settled he starts to take his camera out on his rides into the hills and gets engrossed in landscape photography, very quickly building up a portfolio of work which leads to some professional contracts. When he finally receives the money from the insurance company for loss of income and in compensation for the physical and emotional trauma he has suffered, he decides to stay in the area rather than moving back to London and he buys a flat in an up and coming area of town, from which he decides to set up a new photography business. His Mum and Dad are both surprised at his regeneration and each in their own way respond with some ambivalence. This leads to some arguments and rows. Jerry needs quite a bit of help in thinking his way through these at times, but it is all his doing that he doesn’t give up and keeps sorting things out with them. At first it is his father who begins to treat him in a more mature and respectful way. At this point Jerry decides to revert back to his given name, Jerome and feels he is well on the way towards a full recovery, capable of standing up for himself.


After about a year and a half of weekly sessions Jerôme/Jerry starts seeing me fort- nightly. We talk mostly about his relationships now, rather than about physical or psychological problems. His relationship to his mother is still problematic and he is still in two minds about how much to condone her desire to be close. This same question arises about his relationship to me. As a mother substitute I have become quite neces- sary to him as well. He agrees with me that finding a new distance from me will help him in doing the same with his mother. A few months later he switches to coming to see me once a month and continues to see me on this basis for another ten sessions.

I am not surprised when some time during this period he tells me that he has found a new partner, Josh, also a photographer, eight years his senior. Very quickly they build a mutual and committed relationship and when Jerome comes to see me for the final session, he and Josh have started not only to work but also live together. He brings his partner along to introduce us to each other. Jerome appears full of confidence and is brimming over with plans and projects in his new life. The two of them seem extremely happy together: as far as I can tell they are relaxed and affectionate with each other. He introduces me as: ‘the lady who changed my life’ and when I correct him with: ‘you mean, the lady who helped you to see how you could change your life’, I laugh at my own impudence disguised as false modesty. For really, it was neither me nor him who did the work, for all we did was to let life guide him through the complexity of his accident, so that he could thrive on rather than suffer from the far reaching effects it had on his life.


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History of existential analysis in the UK

The contribution of the British school of existential analysis and psychotherapy

(based on Emmy van Deurzen’s chapter in Everyday Mysteries, second edition, 2010.)

The process of therapy is about…

‘the restoration of an unlived dimension of life, whether this is described as forgotten, denied, repressed, or abandoned.’ (Cohn, 2004:384)

It was with the work of R.D Laing that attention was first focused on what an existential approach might contribute to psychotherapy in Britain. While he did not formulate a specific existential form of psychotherapy, the popularity and acceptance of the existential approach has undoubtedly been boosted considerably by his work.  But it has only come into its own by more recent developments in the United Kingdom.  It was the work of both Ronald D. Laing and David Cooper that first highlighted the relevance of existentialism to psychotherapy, but their contribution stopped short at formulating a social critique and a deconstruction of established practice and did not propose a consistent and coherent existential alternative in its place.  Various therapists of different orientations who first came to London because of anti-psychiatry moved towards a more disciplined application of existential philosophies to psychotherapy over the years.  It was with the creation of the Society for Existential Analysis in London in 1988 and the launch of Existential Analysis, the Journal of the Society for Existential Analysis that these existential practitioners found a home and first acquired an umbrella organization for the existential approach as well as a forum for the expression of a range of diverse existential views.

History of the creation of existential therapy and the society for existential analysis.

Emmy van Deurzen founded the Society for Existential Analysis together with a group of colleagues who were enthusiastic about existential therapy and who had mostly been students or staff at the School of Psychotherapy at Regent’s College, which Emmy had also set up.  The impulse for the creation of SEA came from her disappointment with the lack of an organized existential scene, when she arrived from France in London to work with the anti-psychiatrists in the late seventies.  She was perturbed by the lack of communication between Ronnie Laing, David Cooper, Joe Berke and Aaron Esterson, which had led to fragmentation of the existential movement. She took the view that this hampered the development of the existential approach considerably.  Though there was a lot of creativity around no one was actually formulating consistent principles of how to do existential work with the residents of the therapeutic communities.  When she gave a talk to the Arbours Association in 1977 together with her then husband Dr. Jean-Pierre Fabre, they entitled it: ‘Liberty, Equality and Brotherhood’, after the French national motto. The talk recapped the psychotherapeutic ideals they had formulated through their reading of the anti-psychiatry literature and which they had previously implemented in their work in the psychiatric communities in France where they had worked together during the early seventies (the psychiatric hospital of Font D’Aurelle in Montpellier, the revolutionary hospital of Saint-Alban in the Lozère and the Psychotherapeutic Centre of La Candélie in Agen).

Emmy had previously written up some of these ideas in her master’s thesis in philosophy, under the tutelage of the French phenomenologist Michel Henry (Fabre van Deurzen, 1975) and had expanded on them during her training and master’s thesis in clinical psychology. It was disappointing to her, after giving up a career in France to join with the British movement of anti-psychiatry, that so few of the original values were actively implemented in the London therapeutic communities. The talk they gave therefore vigorously suggested that there should be greater emphasis on existential principles. Emmy began to work out what exactly these principles were and gave a talk to the Netherne Psychiatric Hospital in Coulsdon, in early 1978 in which she expanded on them.  This formulation of her ideas about existential therapy were mainly based on Husserl’s, Heidegger’s, Scheler’s, Sartre’s, Merleau Ponty’s and Laing’s work as well as being strongly inspired by the ideas of Michel Henry (1969, 1975, 1987, 2002). These philosophical principles also formed the basis of her interventions at the Arbours crisis centre as described in Fabre’s thesis for his speciality in psychiatry (Fabre, 1978). Meanwhile Joe Berke took up the challenge and he invited Emmy to co-teach the first seminar on existential psychotherapy in the Arbours training programme, together with Dr. Andrea Sabbadini, a psychologist who had come over from Italy with his wife to work with the Arbours. They co-taught this seminar in early 1978 and Emmy continued to develop and to teach this course by herself during the next year.  Somehow the idea of using philosophy as the basis for specific therapeutic interventions had not been part of the anti-psychiatry scene up to that point and trainees responded to it gratefully, since it gave them concrete parameters for a new approach. The Zeitgeist had been stronger in terms of giving permission to not give psychiatric treatment than on clearly describing alternative interventions. In the Philadelphia Association training programme at that time there were no specific formulations of existential therapy either, though there were many interesting seminars on related existential issues. The trend here was towards French Lacanian psychoanalysis, something Emmy was all too familiar with from her work in France. By contrast the trend in the Arbours was towards a neo-Kleinian approach, which seemed quite far removed from existential therapy, since it was deeply interpretative in nature. There was a lack of leadership in terms of the existential approach as Laing himself had become much more interested in birth trauma and implantation issues than in developing an existential method that could be taught to trainees and implemented in the therapeutic communities. There was a real need for such a formulation.  The trainees at the Arbours were eager for the existential input and the existential seminars were a resounding success.  Emmy had scoured the libraries for text books to base all this on and had found very little to go on.  Rollo May’s Existence (1958) provided little besides the excellent Binswanger and Minkowski case studies and some clear general theory.  She decided to start from scratch and to base the work mostly on applied philosophical thinking, verified by her professional experience.  The best bibliographical resource she found was Mucchieli’s book ‘Analyse existentielle et psychothérapie phénoméno-structurale’, (Mucchieli, 1967), which she read avidly, but which had not been translated into English. She used Mary Warnock’s little book on Existentialism as the course text book.  Later on she became acquainted with Boss’ work, but she had no access to this initially and later on found it too analytical in nature.  Yalom had not yet published any of his existential work at this time.

Having acquired a reputation for philosophical innovation Emmy was now offered a job as lecturer in existential psychology at Antioch University, London, where John Andrew Miller and Steve Gans (of the Philadelphia Association) had just set up a Masters programme in Humanistic Psychology. She joined wholeheartedly and was appointed Associate Director a year later.  Her existential approach was vigorously developed during this period as she also started teaching it, in distilled and eminently pragmatic form, in workshops on existential counselling skills for the students of the Diploma in Counselling at South West London College, a pioneering course which was based on person centered and learning community principles and which was directed by Brigid Proctor, who encouraged and nurtured new ideas and initiatives.  Emmy’s work gained much from her exposure to and discussions with person centered and Gestalt based colleagues during this period. She published the principles of her version of Existential Therapy (ET) for the first time in Dryden’s Handbook of Individual Therapy in Britain (van Deurzen-Smith, 1984). The next phase of development of the approach was interwoven with upheavals and crises. During a financial crisis at Antioch University the Humanistic MA was threatened with closure, and several colleagues resigned. Emmy persisted and her efforts paid off in 1982, when she was given the opportunity of creating a new programme for Antioch University, called the MA in the Psychology of Therapy and Counselling, which was fundamentally based on an existential approach to psychotherapy. This programme slowly grew into a substantial and viable psychotherapy training programme and in 1985, with its move from Islington to the recently deserted campus of Bedford College in Regent’s Park, re-baptised Regent’s College, it began to thrive. In the lush surroundings of the park it was possible to start other existential courses and build up an entire psychology department, for which Emmy negotiated a merger with Regent’s College in 1988, shortly before the founding of the Society for Existential Analysis. The actual founding of the Society came about through a series of lectures she had been trying to arrange for Syracuse University and some other American Universities which had their base in the College. The idea was to introduce these students to anti-psychiatry and she had spoken with Ronnie Laing, Joe Berke, Leon Redler, Steve Gans and some others about them making a contribution to a series of seminars for these students. When the seminars fell through at the eleventh hour she suggested the setting up of a Society that would provide a platform for future meetings and that would serve as a reference point for all those interested in the existential approach.  This was generally considered a good idea, though some expressed scepticism about the possibility of mending the splits that existed in the field. Emmy believed this was reason the more for persisting.  It meant a lot to her to have been given the blessings of Ronnie Laing and Joe Berke, who were the senior leaders of the two groupings at that time.  But it was John Heaton who supported the founding of SEA most strongly as he came to the first meeting in July 88 at Regent’s College, where a substantial group of interested members of staff and students as well as some like minded outsiders had gathered to come to set up the Society, of which Emmy was elected founding chair. It was the enthusiasm of the officers and the steering committee that made the SEA into a success during those first delicate years, especially the work of Eve Dolphin, the first honorary secretary, Arthur Jonathan, the first honorary treasurer, Carol Siederer, then Van Artsdalen, and Elena Zanger, as editors of the first journal. Many people put in long hours and contributed much, for instance Luci Moja Strasser and Freddie Strasser, who gave unstinting support in organizing conferences and fora, workshops and video recordings.  Of course the success of the SEA was down to the efforts of many more people over the years, including the subsequent chairs, Ernesto Spinelli, Mike Harding, Paul Smith-Pickard and Paul McGinley.

The first conference of the Society was held on 3d December 1988, just two weeks before a huge crisis hit Regent’s College, which was the Lockerbie plane bombing, in which a number of Regent’s College students died. They had been part of the programme of Syracuse University and had lived in the same building where the existential courses were held. They enthusiastically waved goodbye as they left that morning of 21st December on their way home to the USA for Christmas.  The awfulness and sadness of their young deaths was a reminder of the importance of a therapeutic approach that could take death into its stride. The Society became firmly established as a place where life and death issues could be debated and understood in a spirit of openness and mutual respect.  In the wake of this terrible tragedy the College also came to the edge of bankruptcy as over the next months many American parents withdrew their children from overseas’ studies. The existential courses nearly folded when the College was suddenly taken over by a private management company.  But with characteristic vigour Emmy persuaded the new management to give her a chance and she was allowed to establish the School of Psychotherapy and Counselling, as an independent entity, of which she became a Company Director and Dean. She forged links with City University, which began validating her courses and also ensured professional accreditation by the United Kingdom Council for Psychotherapy by becoming a very active Council member of the United Kingdom Standing Conference for Psychotherapy. This took her to being its external relations officer and finally the first chair of UKCP, as the national psychotherapy register was launched.  The next seven years were a rush of hard and intense work as the existential approach was experiencing major construction work in the UK.

The launch of the Society had followed on closely from the publication of Emmy’s first  book Existential Counselling in Practice, with Sage (van Deurzen-Smith, 1988).   This had been ten years in the writing, inspired as it was by her teaching at Antioch University and South West London College. It was intended as a text for the hundreds of students who were now being trained in the existential approach each year and put the approach firmly on the map in the UK. Emmy soon persuaded Sage to publish Spinelli’s book on Phenomenological Psychology as well (Spinelli, 1989) and these two books for numerous years were the backbone of the Regent’s courses.  It is hard to remember now just how difficult it was to promote the existential approach in those early days when there were so few publications to back it up and people used to raise their eyebrows at the word ‘existential’ or ‘phenomenological’ as if they doubted your sanity. While Yalom’s publication of Existential Psychotherapy in 1981 had made a start in providing much needed American support, this book was only really noticed in Britain after he had published his case studies.  The momentum for the growth of the existential approach in Britain truly came from the combination of having an active Society for Existential Analysis and a number of good training courses that would actually lead to registration. It was this that made it possible to reclaim the philosophical roots of the existential approach in a radical manner. It was something that had not happened anywhere before. The existential approach was finally put on the map in a way that neither May’s nor Laing’s work had been able to do.  Now many people rallied round.  Tom Szasz, who had met Emmy van Deurzen at a conference in the late seventies, came to deliver a talk for the Society in early 1989 and Ronnie Laing agreed to be the star of the December conference during that same year.  It was going to be entitled ‘Demystifying Psychotherapy’ and he promised he would finally address the question of how the existential therapist was to proceed in practice.  It was not to be, for Laing died unexpectedly that summer and the second conference became a memorial conference for him instead at which his son, Adrian gave a paper on his life and work.


By then other publications were forthcoming, as a direct result of the launch of SEA, Ernesto Spinelli’s first book was rapidly followed by a spree of other publications by Spinelli (1994, 1997, 2001, 2007), Hans Cohn joined the Society and started teaching for Regent’s College, which led to his Heideggerian publications (1993, 1994, 1997, 2002).   John Heaton (1990, 1994),  Anthony Stadlen (1989), Freddie and Alison Strasser (1997) and Simon  du Plock (1995,1997) also contributed new texts.  Alongside these new voices Emmy continued to formulate her own growing body of work (Deurzen 1997, 1998, 2002, 2008,) as well as editing and writing books together with colleagues (Deurzen and Arnold-Baker, 2005, Deurzen and Kenward, 2005, Deurzen and Young 2009, Deurzen and Adams, 2011). Perhaps most importantly the approach continued to develop and expand across the rest of Europe as well.  Interest was generated across Scandinavia and Eastern Europe and societies were founded in Denmark, Sweden, Eastern Europe, Portugal and elsewhere in the world, including in Mexico and Latin America.  The formulation of the philosophical form of existential therapy that is typical of the British School continued to evolve in complex and varied ways. A number of academic and research centres were established.  The Journal of the Society for Existential, edited over the years by Hans Cohn, John Heaton and Greg Madison, but always in partnership with Simon du Plock, became a force to be reckoned with.  It continues to articulate and accumulate all this evolving knowledge and expertise, drawing in more and more authors and members of the editorial board from around the world.  Many younger authors have also emerged through the training courses and have made contributions of their own, for instance Eleftheriadou (1994) and Lemma (1992, 1994, 1997).  There are numerous others who have contributed papers to the Journal or to the edited books, including Lucia Moja Strasser, Anthony and Naomi Stadlen, Diana Mitchell, Nick Kirkland-Handley, Richard Swynnerton, Martin Adams (see van Deurzen and Arnold-Baker, 2005 and van Deurzen and Young, 2009) , Paul Smith-Pickard (2004, 2005,2006) and Mike Harding (2003, 2004).

Some of the most interesting new developments have come from slightly tangential approaches, such as Digby Tantam’s existential narrative approach (2002, 2008), Greg Madison’s focusing based approach (in van Deurzen and Arnold-Baker 2005), the eco-psychological approach of Martin Milton (1997, 2000, 2005) and the philosophically based approaches of Tim Le Bon ( 2001), Antonia Macaro (2006) and also Alex Howard (2000). The work of some other authors in the UK dovetailed with these existential developments, including the work of David Smail (1978, 1987, 1993), Peter Lomas (1981) Chris Mace (1999) and Pat Bracken (2002)  Perhaps though most notably Mick Cooper published his text book on Existential Therapies (2003), in which he compared and contrasted the British school with other forms and schools of existential therapy, creating that meta level of thinking about the existential approach that took it into the mainstream.

History of the splits

One of the strengths of existential therapy is its openness to diversity and its lack of systematisation, allowing for fluidity, variety and personal input. This has led to a process of continuous dynamic tension and expansion, when different contributors have disagreed with each other.  This has created a stimulating and vibrant intellectual climate. This creative tension however became destructive for a period because of the political controversy over van Deurzen’s unfair dismissal from Regent’s College in 1996 after she challenged the fiduciary practices of its President.  Severed and banned from the School that she had founded and had invested so much of her professional and personal life into, she was determined to survive and to create a new school that would be based purely on existential principles.  With support from Schiller International University and London City College, she co-founded the New School of Psychotherapy and Counselling together with Digby Tantam and with the help of Freddie Strasser and Claire Arnold-Baker and a number of others. Sadly within months she found herself being prosecuted and imprisoned in her own office for an afternoon while a draconian Anton Pillar order meant that solicitors could impound her computers and paperwork and raid both her office and her home, as she was taken to the High Court by Regent’s College Management Services (now defunct), falsely accused of stealing their courses and students.  After weeks of wrangling in the High Court her name was wholly cleared and she received some financial compensation for her unfair dismissal, but was forced to sign a gagging order, which stopped her discussing or publicising what had been done to her. This order was rescinded de facto when the illegal financial practices she had exposed finally came to light more than ten years later as Regent’s College Management Services were challenged and disbanded and the President was dismissed.  During these ten years Emmy struggled to establish the New School, having to compete with her own former success at Regent’s College and hampered by the isolation the court case had plunged her into.  Given all these disadvantages, the New School took a long time to take root, as it lacked resources and had to establish its own reputation for excellence. It ultimately flourished because it embodied the heroic battle with adversity so central to existential thinking and because it was founded in that true but rare existential pioneering spirit in which questioning, deep thinking can thrive in a spirit of community.

Training courses

There are many other courses now that include existential elements of training.  The New School itself is now partnered with Middlesex University, as is Metanoia, which also offers some existential training, as do Surrey University, Brighton University, Strathclyde University, Roehampton University, City University and Sheffield University. Existential therapy itself is becoming a household name and there are numerous mental health and therapeutic services both in the voluntary and public sector that specialize in the approach (see for instance Barnet, 2009).  Existential therapists trained at these institutions are accepted for registration with the United Kingdom Council for Psychotherapy and are able to complete doctoral level training in the existential field.   The European Commission also offered its support to existential therapy training in the form of several Leonardo and Socrates grants to a partnership of the University of Sheffield, Dilemma Consultancy and the New School together with various other countries and universities in Europe, including Sweden, Ireland, Poland, the Czech Republic, Austria, Romania, Italy, Belgium, France and Portugal.  This e-based training programme is known as Septimus (www.dilemmatraining.com) and has trained many therapists throughout Europe and the wider world in elements of the existential approach.

As has been already implied the particular characteristic of the British School is to see the existential approach as deeply embedded in continental philosophy. Training always includes some and usually extensive exposure to a range of philosophical ideas, but also takes in a variety of other psychotherapeutic approaches. A critical appraisal is thus encouraged and independence of thinking is fostered. It is this spirit of openness to debate and integration of various perspectives that best characterizes the British School’s approach.  Of course there will always be a tendency towards a closing of the mind and an escape towards a secure and rigidly defined and defended base, as there is in all walks of life.  Mick Cooper’s book Existential Therapies (2003) discusses some of the tensions and differences that exist and summarizes what the British contribution entails in contrast with other existential schools.

More recently it is the international impact of the British School of Existential Therapy that has become obvious. The Society for Existential Analysis has many international members and sends its Journal right around the world. It is affiliated to the International Federation for Daseinsanalysis and partnered with the International Collaborative of Existential Counsellors and Psychotherapists (ICECAP), which was founded on the occasion of the 10th Anniversary conference of the New School of Psychotherapy and Counselling.  ICECAP brings together existential practitioners from around the globe.  Several of the senior figures of the British School, including, Spinelli, du Plock, Tantam, Madison and van Deurzen, lecture worldwide on existential psychotherapy and have helped create similar new schools in a variety of other European, East European and other countries, including Israel, Mexico and Australia.

Another important development is that several research groups have recently been established to demonstrate the effectiveness of existential therapy.  A partnership, EPCORN (Existential Psychotherapy and Counselling Outcome Research Network) was created between the Universities of Surrey, Abertay, Strathclyde, Sheffield and Middlesex.  Much emphasis is likely to be placed on such research in future as several doctoral programmes in existential psychotherapy and counselling psychology are now in place and are establishing a solid research base in the field.  This will be increasingly important if Existential Therapy (ET) is to become a player in a world where regulation and evidence based practice is the order of the day.  It is to be hoped that this will not undermine or destroy the essential spirit of humanity and search for truth without reliance on technology that is so dear to existential therapists.



Early years in the Netherlands

Emma van Deurzen was born on 13 December 1951 in The Hague, Netherlands, the second daughter of Arie van Deurzen and Anna Hensel. Her father’s family came from Weert in the South of the Netherlands, where they had transported goods along the Dutch rivers and canals.  Her father, who grew up in the Hague, became an antiques expert (specializing in Russian artifacts and icons, Dutch paintings and porcelain) and he directed the Venduehuis of the Notaries of The Hague and organized antique auctions at Pulchri Studio, a well known art gallery in The Hague. Emmy was fascinated by art and the commercial world from early on. Her mother came from a middle class family, with aristocratic roots in Schleswig Holstein, when it was still Danish, and a history of religious persecution under Bismarck, when the family had to take refuge in the Netherlands. Her maternal grandfather was mayor of Vlissingen as a young man, was a devoted Anabaptist and wrote spiritual poetry, a writing and speaking talent he passed on to his youngest grandchild. During the Second World War Emmy’s mother worked as a nurse in the children’s hospital, taking care of children with tuberculosis and tetanus and was famously allowed to keep her bicycle when the Germans requisitioned all bikes in the Netherlands. Her father, who had narrowly escaped from being taken prisoner by the invaders had to hide, together with several men from the Hague fire-brigade, lying on the rafters in a freezing loft during that long cold final winter of the war when the West of the Netherlands was cut off from the rest of the world and was on its knees, deprived of food, energy, heat and clean water. Her father nearly died when he contracted double pneumonia.  Emmy grew up listening to daily stories about her parents’ traumatic experiences and deprivations and the injustices of the war.  It was all very real still as the family lived in very cramped conditions, because so many houses had been destroyed by the war.  Living on coupons and in relative poverty was as much a part of her early life as listening to stories about bombings and shootings and fear on the streets and also about the unreliability of other human beings and the possibility of betrayal when escaping from persecution and listening to forbidden radio transmitters. The threats that Holland was subjected to during the cold war in the ninety fifties added to this picture of a very dangerous world.  Emmy grew up in the South West of The Hague and for most of her childhood and teenage years lived in the top flat of a block based only a stone’s throw from the North Sea, standing in the sand dunes.  She shared a tiny bedroom with her elder sister, Ingrid and learnt to stand up for herself by having many years of judo lessons, getting up to blue belt level.  She also learnt to switch off from the world by avidly reading books, singing in the communal staircase and composing songs and poems. Much of her childhood was spent playing in the streets and wandering about in the dunes. She loved her bike and her ice skates as well as her uncle’s sailing boat.  A serious bike accident at the age of ten led to a stay in hospital and a transformation in the way in which she saw her life and her role in the family.  She completed her classical education at the very liberal, nearby Dalton Lyceum, where she was an active contributor to the school newsletter, took small parts in school plays and sang in the choir as well as performing her own songs with the guitar. She became impassioned with Socrates, when studying Plato and passed her final exams in Greek and Latin as well as in Maths, History, Dutch, French, English and German before moving to Montpellier, France.  She faithfully kept a diary from the age of 13, learnt to paint in oils and play the recorder as well as the guitar and wrote her first novel, Horizon, at the age of sixteen.

Academic study and training in France

At eighteen, having passed her final exams and after hitchhiking around France with a girlfriend, playing the guitar and singing in restaurants, she left the Netherlands and went to France, by herself, to study French at the Université Paul Valéry for the first year and then completed two degrees (licence and maîtrise) in Philosophy. She specialised in moral and political philosophy and her Masters dissertation was prepared under the supervision of Michel Henry, an eminent French phenomenologist. It was entitled: ‘Some Philosophical Reflections on certain Psychiatric Aspects of the Refusal of our Experience of Others’ (Quelques Reflexions Philosophiques sur Certains Aspects Psychiatriques du Refus de L’Experience d’Autrui) and it applied Husserl’s phenomenology to the exploration of loneliness and its relationship to schizophrenia. At the end of 1972 she married Jean Pierre Fabre, a young psychiatrist, with whom she attended psychiatric lectures as well as psychotherapy training and supervision sessions.  In 1973 she took up a full time position working in the revolutionary psychiatric hospital of Saint Alban in the Massif Central (Lozère) as a group facilitator and counsellor.  Here she learnt about psychodrama techniques and large group psychotherapy methods and she worked with the hospital radio, led the weekly hospital newsletter meetings and directed (and acted in) several hospital plays, as well as running relaxation and discussion groups and doing individual therapy.

After two years she and her husband moved to the psychotherapeutic centre ‘La Candelie’ in Agen, South West France, where she continued to work as a psychotherapist under supervision of the well known Lacanian psychoanalyst Dr. François Tosquelles, whilst completing her degrees (Licence and Maîtrise) in clinical psychology at the University of Bordeaux. She worked for a year as a graduate tutor in psychophysiology at the University of Bordeaux and completed her master’s thesis on ‘Attempted Suicide in Young Women’, which earned the merit of most distinguished dissertation of the year. She and her husband had begun to practice couple and family therapy together during these years and travelled widely to learn about new and experimental methods in psychiatry, among other places visiting Basaglia’s experimental department in Gorizia in Italy, Olievenstein’s drug unit in Marmottan, Paris, and Oury’s psychiatric department in Laborde, north western France, which was based on the work of Deleuze and Guattari. They also attended numerous international conferences, meeting similar minded colleagues, which led to an invitation to come to the United Kingdom to work with the therapeutic community movement in anti-psychiatry.

Settling in the UK

They migrated to Britain in 1977 and lived and worked in Norbury, in a South London psychotherapeutic community of the Arbours Association (founded by Berke and Schatzman) for a year, whilst also working in the Crisis Centre. They were also involved with the Philadelphia Association and attended several events and meetings with R.D. Laing. This is when Emmy began teaching existential philosophy and psychotherapy for the Arbours training programme and also gave her first public lecture on ‘Liberty, Equality and Brotherhood in Laingian therapeutic communities’ at the Netherne Psychiatric Hospital conference . In 1978, they went on a three months’ work/study trip to California, visiting Esalen (where they did some work with Gregory Bateson and received training in Gestalt therapy and bioenergetics), the Mental Research Institute and Berkeley University (where she met with Herbert Dreyfus) as well as visiting and staying in several therapeutic communities (including Soteria House and Phoenix). They also stayed for several weeks at the Theosophical Society in Pasadena.  Upon their return they decided to part company, as Jean Pierre wanted to return to his psychiatric career in France whilst Emmy began teaching on the London programmes of Antioch University International. In the summer of 1978 Emmy assisted Ronnie Laing in his re-birthing stunt at the Laing/Rogers encounter at the Hilton hotel in Park Lane, London and came to the conclusion that neither Laing nor Rogers could quench her thirst for a fully philosophical approach to psychotherapy.  She decided to establish her own method of existential work and launched her private practice during this transformational year. Soon she became Associate Director of the MA in Humanistic Psychology which had been created by John Andrew Miller and Steven Gans for Antioch University and was also appointed part-time lecturer on the South West London Counselling Courses, where she learnt to apply her philosophical thinking in an eminently practical way.

Creating an Existential Movement

During this time Emmy met David Livingstone Smith 2nd, who was a bio-energetic therapist and astrologer at that time and who was to become her second husband.  They had a son, Benjamin, in 1981 and a daughter Sasha, in 1985. Meanwhile Emmy developed a new programme for Antioch University: the MA in the Psychology of Therapy and Counselling and was appointed its Director in 1982. This course moved to Regent’s College in 1985 when this new American College was created after the old Bedford College, which had long been located in the building in Regent’s park, was merged with Royal Holloway College and moved to Egham (Surrey). Emmy’s focus was on building up the programme and she was able to negotiate a merger with the College in 1989, when she was appointed Head of the Regent’s College Psychology Department. Unfortunately the College came close to bankruptcy a year later and was taken over by financial investors who changed the mode of operating to a business based rather than an educational philosophy. At this point she made herself into an entrepreneur and became Dean of the School of Psychotherapy and Counselling, which she founded in 1991 and of which she was a Company Director until 1996.

During this same time she had written and published her first book Existential Counselling in Practice (Sage 1987) and founded the Society for Existential Analysis (1988).  An account of her almost single-handed creation of the movement of Existential Psychotherapy can be found below. In this period she also became active in the political arena of professional psychotherapy. She joined the Rugby Conference on Psychotherapy and was a founder member of the UK Standing Conference of Psychotherapy in Canterbury in 1990.  She was elected onto the governing board as an ordinary member on the strength of her insight into the importance of the European dimension of psychotherapy and she started working with the European Commission on behalf of British psychotherapists straight away.  She was elected external relations officer a year later and loyally served under the chair of the standing conference Michael Pokorny for two years.  When the United Kingdom Council for Psychotherapy was finally created in January 1993, she was elected its first chair.  Under her leadership UKCP became a truly professional organization and she not only made the important links with Europe, through membership of the European Association of Psychotherapy, but also with government and with various governmental projects, in relation to the Lead Body for Psychotherapy and Counselling and the False Memory debate. She gave a speech at the House of Lords during the launch of the UKCP register in May 1993, which put psychotherapy on the map in the UK as a separate and independent profession. She ensured that UKCP could have a base in Regent’s College for the first two years of its life. When she handed over the organization to Digby Tantam in January 1995, she had also made sure in working with other academic colleagues that a University Psychotherapy Association had been set up and this ensured that masters’ level courses would be the new standard for psychotherapy training.  She was to continue working closely with Digby Tantam to set standards for psychotherapy in Europe and worldwide, as co-chairs of the European Training Standards Committee.  Their relationship, a close friendship for many years, gradually became personal and indispensable.

Crisis and the creation of a new school

Meanwhile her work at Regent’s College became marred by disagreements about the College’s business ideology, which obliged her to expand the school year on year, to become one of the largest training organizations with many hundreds of students.  She obtained validation from City University, London for her courses and was awarded a Chair by Regent’s College in 1993, when she gave an inaugural lecture entitled ‘If Truth were a Woman..’, a thinly veiled critique of the lack of integrity she was experiencing in the circles she was moving in and an expression of the ethical problems she was struggling to resolve for herself.

Emmy was forced to leave Regent’s College in 1996 when she openly challenged the fiduciary practices of the then President of the College and was not only escorted off the premises by security guards but subsequently taken to the High Court when she fought back by setting up a New School.  The false accusations were proven wrong and she won her case, but not without having to sign a confidentiality agreement that prevented her from making public what had been done not only to her but also to the College. She founded the New School of Psychotherapy and Counselling with the support of Prof. Digby Tantam, Dr. Freddie Strasser and Claire Arnold-Baker and fought for its survival for many years. The New School specialized in existential psychotherapy training, which remains a unique feature to this day.  It was based in London, on the South Bank, in Waterloo, moving to West Hampstead after breaking free from Schiller International University in 2010.


Emmy continues to direct the New School as its Principal and she is a Visiting Professor in Psychotherapy with Middlesex University.  She was also Co-Director of the Centre for the Study of Conflict and Reconciliation at the University of Sheffield and an Honorary Professor with the University of Sheffield for many years. She completed her doctorate in philosophy with Alphons Grieder at the social sciences department of  City University with research on Heidegger’s views on Authenticity and their Relevance to Psychotherapy in 2000. She has written extensively on the application of philosophical ideas to working with individuals, couples, groups and organizations and remains an Honorary Life Member of the Society for Existential Analysis. Her book Existential Counselling and Psychotherapy in Practice became a bestseller and saw its second edition in 2002 and will have its third edition in 2012. It has been translated into a number of other languages, including Russian, Spanish, Danish, Swedish, Korean, Hebrew, Greek and Chinese. Her books Paradox and Passion in Psychotherapy (Wiley 1998) and Everyday Mysteries (Routledge 1997) are also still in print and the second edition of Everyday Mysteries was published in 2010.  Many of these books and papers have been translated into numerous other languages. She has co-authored the Dictionary of Existential Psychotherapy and Counselling with Raymond Kenward (Sage 2005) and co-edited a book on existential therapy with Claire Arnold-Baker (Palgrave 2005) and a book on existential supervision with Sarah Young (Palgrave 2009). Her book Psychotherapy and the Quest for Happiness, also with Sage (2009) took on the controversy over positive psychology and shows the importance of facing reality and learning to be well instead of looking for happiness.  A book on Skills in Existential Therapy was co-authored with Martin Adams (Sage 2011). Emmy is much in demand as an international speaker on all these subjects. She has a particular interest in helping people question their assumptions, beliefs and values and guiding them through life crises, dilemmas and transformations towards a more meaningful life and she continues to lecture worldwide.

Emmy is a chartered Counselling Psychologist and was elected a Fellow of the British Psychological Society in 2000.  She is a registered existential psychotherapist and was offered a Fellowship by the United Kingdom Council for Psychotherapy in 2006. She was also made a Fellow of the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy in 2001.  She has chaired numerous other professional associations and has founded several as well.  She and Digby Tantam co-founded and co-chair the International Collaborative of Existential Counsellors and Psychotherapists (ICECAP) as well as being co-chairs of the European Training Standards Committee, when it developed and launched the European Certificate for Psychotherapy. They worked with the Council of Europe on human rights issues on behalf of the European Association for Psychotherapy and Emmy was also the Ambassador for the EAP to the European Commission.  Because of this she was offered the European Certificate for Psychotherapy on an honorary basis in 1998.

Personal life

Emmy moved to Sheffield in 1997 to live and work with Digby Tantam who had been given a chair in clinical psychotherapy at the University of Sheffield in 1995.  They married in 1998 and created Dilemma Consultancy Limited, which offers counselling, therapy, supervision, assessments and training.  They have continued to develop the New School together and have obtained five European grants together which have mainly involved them in creating and developing online training for psychotherapists with colleagues from a dozen European countries.  They are co-authoring a book on Emotional Health and Well Being.

On the personal front they have put much energy into blending their families together. Their four children have all gone in different directions.  One daughter lives in the West Country, the other in London, their eldest son is married and lives in Plymouth and their younger son is married and lives in New Jersey.  They are respectively a nuclear engineer, a clinical psychologist, a bio-physicist, turned software engineer and an existential coach.  Emmy and Digby live in the peak district and are committed hill walkers. They were the proud owners of a large Saint Bernard dog for many years, who lived to the ripe old age of eleven.  They spend much of their holidays travelling or writing in their little house in the Medoc, France.

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